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Cruise Deal of the Week – August 16, 2019
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Remembering Michael

Monday Mantra

May he rest in peace… May he rest in peace… May he rest in peace…

Remembering Michael

Calling on Bermuda, and points beyond….

When I signed up to do this blog last May, I understood that I’d be contributing lighthearted and silly humor pieces to Porthole.com. Never did I imagine that in less than a year, one of those blogs would be the saddest thing I’ve ever written.

My husband, Michael, my housemate, my soul mate, my cruise mate, and a prominently featured character in my blogs, died on April 2 after a short, though maddening, illness that attacked his liver, his kidneys, and the biggest, warmest, most wonderful heart on the planet.

As I’ve written before, Michael and I met on a cruise and cruising was an enormous part of our lives. We most recently sailed in June to Alaska aboard Silversea (the photo here taken during that sailing) and, in November, aboard Norwegian Gem, his illness starting to become apparent during that voyage. He slept nearly the entire time on that sailing and I spent a tremendous amount of time in the almost-always-empty cigar bar crying because I wanted to hide from him my tears and my fear that his illness was a serious one.

Michael will continue to be with me when I gaze out at the ocean from a cruise ship deck. In fact, his wish was to be cremated, his ashes scattered in the waters off Bermuda, and I intend to fulfill that wish — a service that many cruise lines do provide.

In the meantime, the powerful bonds that cruising forges have never been more visible. News of Michael’s passing has prompted emails and Facebook posts from wonderful people we met on sailings as far back as 20 years ago. They remember his smile, humor, wit, and warmth. They remember Michael as he was before illness robbed him of that bright and wonderful spirit.

I’ll be taking a few weeks away from Monday Mantra as I try to find humor in a world that has robbed me of something so precious. But 18 years with Michael has left me with a sense of humor and appreciation of the absurd that even his loss can’t permanently erase.

Rest in peace, my love.

 

— Judi Cuervo

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  1. Judi,

    I’m so sorry for your loss. My condolences to you and your family.

  2. Hi Judi, I was doing research on an upcoming cruise via the Norwegian Gem on April 24th, and stumbled upon your post. It brought me to tears and I felt the need to send condolences. Forgive my jumbled words as my ADHD gets me to write strange sentences.

    I’m so sorry for your loss. I cannot fathom the grief or hurt you’re experiencing…During times like these I encourage more thinking like your comment “left me with a sense of humor and appreciation of the absurd that even his loss can’t permanently erase.” Sayings like that help us realize how precious life is. and that we must live our lives. We have only so long on this planet and we don’t really know what or how long life will give us, so many unknowns. We Must live all the time that we have, as long & as happy as possible. We should smile when looking back remembering all of our life, because our lives are beautiful. Michael would have wanted everyone to have the same spirit as he had.

    PS. crying is a good thing to do, as it helps one decompress in times of need.

  3. Thank you, particularly Nolan. Even in these tremendously difficult days, funny things have happened, like three–THREE–different people (with their only connection being that they all live in our building) incorporating into their condolences to me how much they admired how Michael did the laundry. True, he was the master of the laundry, bringing his own hangers down to the laundry room, assigning different drying times to each garment and actually being able to neatly fold a fitted sheet….but what are the chances that three different people would feel compelled to recognize a person’s laundry skills when expressing sympathy to his widow?? It’s the type of thing I’d want to run home to tell Michael about so we could laugh and laugh…but when I realize I can’t do that, the sadness starts again. Still, it proves my sense of humor is still there and I hope I’ll be ready to continue Monday Mantra within the next month or so. Thanks, everyone.

  4. Judi,
    As a fellow two time alumni of The Moody Blues Cruise, and fellow Strawbs fan, I was deeply saddened to hear the news of Michael’s passing. If you buy into it strongly, as I do, he is now on the greatest & grandest cruise that anyone could ever imagine. All you can do is carry his spirit forward at this point, doing the things you both loved to do, and continue to help those around you, as they try to help you. I know I speak for many who know you, our prayers & thoughts are strongly with you.